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May be you don’t love yourself! May be I don’t love myself, the author of “The courage to be happy”, made me question the love that I have for myself! The fact that I was expecting an unconditional love, the kind of love that a mother does, was because I was not full of love for myself, and would often find myself questioning and judging the love others had for me!

Because I did not love myself, rather not accepted myself for all the things that I had, and all the things that I was becoming or doing that I would often show people those parts of me, I had not healed hoping, they would do! Hoping that unconditional love will just make me feel accepted within myself! What a fucking master piece the author has played! I can’t thank him enough!

I am not up for conditions in love, but I am up for the disciplined love for sure, or the uplifting love for sure! I mean imagine your mother loving you so much that they don’t force you to start walking or don’t correct you on your mistakes! Your life would have been a mess! But it is not! And yet, we are expecting the kind of love that is so bounding from other people, in hope to fill the vacuums that we have created for ourselves.

After reading the last chapter for this book, I know for sure that you have to love yourself and respect yourself. Few years back I found love and respect! I found people who loved me, but because I did not love myself, I thought they would leave me, or they would just leave honestly leave me, the moment they found someone better! I always had in my mind that there is definitely someone better than me, that they will search for and even if they don’t search for, the universe will help them find them! And then in work, when people praised me ,I thought they had ulterior motives!

It is today, through this book, that I have found that it was never the fault of universe, or the other person, but the lack of love and respect that I have for myself! The lack of respect for myself! In our time in this world, I know for sure, it is our job to give all the love and respect in world to ourselves, to forgive ourselves for the mistakes that we made, and to upheld self respect and self love above everything!

When we start building ourselves, when we start doing things that we promised we will do, we build love, we build respect for ourselves! Reading this book has taught me that in the end we all are here to build a relationship with ourselves, and to resolve the conflicts that we have in our mind! Everything outer is a reflection of what is inside!

Amore,

Avantika