Love is something that we build! If you know me, and know me long enough, you would know that the one answer I have been searching for all my life is the answer to, what is love? I would ask this question while at dinners or when we were too drunk, often to the person I could not stop myself from talking! All the answers in vain, only to find the answer that struck chord with me in the book.
In the earlier versions of the answers that I got, some would say love means to care, so the person you care the most about is the person you love! And I would often think, that could not be true! I care about lot of people, I could care about a friend who is sick, or a friend who is having troubles in their lives! Does that mean I love them, no! I am a empathetic person who cares about the people around!
The other answer I got, was, love is when you cannot stop yourself from talking to them! I could not stop talking to my therapist once, does that mean I am in love with them! Or for that matter, I had a phase where I constantly wanted to talk to a friend of mine, well that is not love either! It shows co dependency.
Someone told me that love is when you can talk anything about to this person! so, if you have found someone you can talk anything about and be completely yourself, and just be known that either ways you will be accepted, that means you are in love! For me it was hard to digest this tablet, considering it is definitely a very important component of love, but not entirely love!
It was when I read the book, that the answer found reason in me! The author says, that love is something that we build! Simple! Love is something that we build! LOVE IS SOMETHING THAT WE BUILD!
Do you love your life? – Are you building something in your life?
Do you love your body? – Are you taking care of your body?
Do you love reading? – Are you building a habit to ensure that you read everyday?
Do you love that person? – Are you building a life with that person?
One stop answer for do you love or do you don’t! The author then talks about the difference between friend relationships and work relationships! For you to have successful work relationships, you need to choose and keep choosing your own happiness! And when it is friend relationship, you keep on choosing happiness of the other person!
The author then tells what is love! Love is neither self interest, nor other interest. Love is when people are both at the same time, and the question changes from me to us! What will be in the best interest for us!
Beauty, this is beauty isn’t it! I have been so confused all my life trying to find these answers and here I am!
How to choose work in office?
Choose what is best for your career. Choose the work that brings you the most joy!
How to choose friends in life?
Choose the ones for whom their happiness feels more important than yours!
How to find love?
Love is what you build with the other person, where the me dissolves and us is present! Where two people sit down together and find what is best for both of them, they build a life together, without dissolving the best interest for both! It is a task to be done by two people, task of building a life together!
So many questions and I am jumping with joy knowing that I know the answers! I hope that you related with these as well! let me know if you think otherwise, or know otherwise!
Amore,
Avantika
Tanubhrt.This.Side 
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